You ask what is love? I liken love to a supernova! When the raw energy between two people explodes, nothing can hold back the overflow of mutual emotion towards one another. If this happens before the ACT of consummation then the likelyhood of success in a long term relationship multiples exponentially; especially if the two express their love for one another in Holy Matrimony! Unfortunately SEX in American society has become as devalued as the common glass of water. Practicing celibacy might help us rebuild quality between men and woman; something we have lost in this society. It might also protect woman from falling for the SO-CALLED DEADBEAT, whom they end up giving their SEX to, and then after the baby complain about his flaws. Love can grow if we try to live within some of the traditions that helped build this country.
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I agree with the above statement to a certain extent. Love is beautiful when the feelings are mutually shared between two individuals. Celibacy enlightens you, helps you to focus on knowing who you are as a person, and protects you. I don't think celibacy will help women from falling in love with "Deadbeats" because some individuals are known to wear these unveiling masks for years and then reveal their "ugly devil". Yes, it may help two individuals feel each other out first before committing to having a child. As for women or men who say that they were hurt or harmed in their previous relationships, they may very well be releasing some of the very pain that was held in for so long from that past bad relationship. I think it is good to learn from your experiences and share them with others who may be going through the same thing and need that support, especially if you were the victim of violence in your relationship. I wouldn't call it just "complaining". If you choose to call it that then you probably do not know how it feels to get hurt in a relationship and also coming out a single parent caring for a child, in the end. As a friend, I think it is always important to validate your friend’s feelings and respect that. There's an old saying, "You do not know if you haven't walked in my shoes".
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I AGREE THAT LOVE IS A SUPER NOVA A MASSIVE EXPLOSION THAT STARTS IN THE HEAD, INUNDATES THE HEART, AND TAKES OVER AND POSSESSES THE SOUL. IT IS A BEAUTIFUL COMBUSTION AND THE FIRE CAN AND SHOULD BURN BETWEEN THOSE BLESSED TO FIND IT FOR ETERNITY. HOWEVER, HAVING BEEN ONE WHO PRACTICED CELIBACY, AND KNOWING OTHERS WHO DO. I WOULD WARN THOSE WHO ADVOCATE THIS PRATICE TO BE CAREFUL OF A COMMON PITFALL. IT CAN BECOME A SELF INFLICTED ISOLATION. ONE BECOMES SO FOCUSED ON STAYING "SEX FREE" THEY BECOME EMOTIONALLY ISOLATED AND JUDGEMENTAL. IT BECOMES A QUEST TO FIND PERFECTION IN OTHERS THAT WILL NEVER BE FOUND. YOU START OUT WEEDING OUT THE INCOMPATIBLE MATE AND END UP JUDGING EVERYONE AND FINDING FAULT IN ALL. TRUE YOU DONT WANT TO RUN INTO YET ANOTHER DEADBEAT BUT TO FIND LOVE YOU HAVE TO BE OPEN TO IT. YOU WALK THE FINE LINE BETWEEN JUDGING WHO IS GOOD FOR YOU TO JUDGING WHO IS GOOD PERIOD.... JUDGING WHO IS WORTHY. THIS PATH IS DETRIMENTAL. ONE BECOMES SO FOCUSED ON PERFECTION IN HIS OR HER PURSUIT OF "THE ONE" THAT THEY PICK TO PIECES POTENTIAL MATES BECAUSE THEY DONT MEET THE EVER GROWING HIGH STANDARDS OF PERFECTION BEING SET. YOU FORGET THAT YOU BECAME CELIBATE OUT OF A NEED TO NOT MAKE MISTAKES YOURSELF. AND YOUR OWN HUMAN FRAILITY BECOMES RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION AND DISDAIN FOR ALL WHO HAVE MADE THE SAME MISTAKES THAT YOU HAVE MADE IN THE PAST. IF YOU ARE NOT CAREFUL YOU BECOME AN ISOLATED EMOTIONALLY DETATCHED JUDGE JURY AND EXECUTIONER, TO EVERY POTENTIAL LOVE THAT COMES TO YOUR LIFE. YOUR MAIN FOCUS BECOMES WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS ONE. AND THAT IS ALL YOU LOOK FOR. NOT SEEING THE GOOD ANYMORE BUT SINGLING OUT EVERY BAD POINT ONE BY ONE. WHY DO YOU DO THIS BECAUSE IN YOUR MIND YOU HAVE BECOME SOME PERFECT VIRGIN BEING. AND ONLY THE WORTHY CAN HAVE YOUR SELF PROCLAIMED VIRGINITY.THAT BEAUTIFUL EXCHANGE OF MAKING LOVE HAS NOW BECOME YOUR RARE A DEEPLY BURIED TREASURE THAT YOU WILL BESTOW ON THIS PERFECT BEING WHEN YOU FIND THEM. ITS A PIPE DREAM, A FANTASY, AND A TRAP YOU HAVE LAYED FOR YOUR SELF, OUT OF SHEER FEAR. YOU ARE AFRAID OF BEING HURT LIKE YOU WERE IN THE PAST AND THIS ATTEMPT TO GET CONTROL OVER YOURSELF AND YOUR LIFE BECOMES A WAY TO CONTROL OTHERS AND HIDE FROM THE FEAR THAT STILL CONTROLS YOU. SO IN YOUR ISOLATION THAT SUPERNOVA THAT YOU FANTASIZE ABOUT EACH LONELY NIGHT WHEN YOU RETIRE TO YOUR LONELY BED BECOMES DIMMER AND DIMMER. IT DRIFTS FARTHER AND FARTHER AWAY BACK INTO THE COSMOS, TIME WASTES, AND YOU GROW OLD.... ALONE. CELIBATE, HOLDING A TREASURE FOR THAT PERFECT PERSON WHO DOES NOT EXIST. YOUR SOLACE YOU ARE NOT WITH THAT DEADBEAT. BUT INSIDE YOU ARE DEAD.
ReplyDeleteI too, seek to understand and know love.
ReplyDeleteOne that is genuine, true, and selfless in its giving.Love is the act of pouring out care, concern, and adoration on another.
True love is possible...yes even in this day.
It must be a form a faith, because in LOVE you must believe.
Love seeks to give , to encourage, to hug someone and tell them..its going to be alright.
Love is many things. Can we recognize it when we see it?